Tuesday, March 27, 2007


Referral pictures of Max


Max's chinese name is Rui Fu. "Rui" meaning auspicious and "Fu" meaning happiness. The chinese name their children usually when they are a month old.


In old China, the mortality rate was high for infants. In the first month, the mother and child stay at home to regain their strength. The mother should not shower, wash her hair, eat fresh fruit or drink cold drinks. Traditionally, the mother is suseptable to colds, anemia and lightheadedness. They also believe they are at risk for other "cool" or "yin" types of conditions, the most serious being "fung sup", a condition similar to what we call artheritis. Ginger is an important heat generating aromatic that is said to "warm" the body and help prevent "cool" illnesses.


At one month, the baby is welcomed with a celebration of "firsts". The first bath, haircut, new outfit, and then a new name. The baby's hair is shaved, except for the top of the crown, to remove the hair considered grown in the womb. This is to stimulate hair growth . The hair is then bundled in red string and stored as a keepsake. This celebrational party, similar to a baby shower, with the participants being family and close friends, is called a "Red Egg and Ginger party. Traditionally, the Chinese grandmother presents the child. She peels the shell from red dyed hard boiled egg and rolls it on the infants skull, forehead, face and body to invoke a life filled with good furtune and blessed with high rank. Gingerroot, that is pickled in a red brine, is also part of the celebration.

The eggs represent fertility, birth and life. The color red is the symbol of happiness and good luck. Pickled ginger represents a family's strong, deep roots that their grandchilden perpetuate.

The name given to the child serves not only as an identifier but also expresses the aspirations and intentions for the child. The given name is also said to influence the child's role and destiny.





Sunday, March 25, 2007

Welcome to our blog for our son, and Sonja's little brother Max!!!

Sonja will soon have a little brother. His name is Max. He currently lives in Gansu province, China and is 17 months old. Max was born with a cleft lip and cleft palate which is currently unrepaired. He will undergo surgery when he arrives home to correct them. We think he is absolutely adorable as did the people who visited him in the orphanage where he lives. He is described as active, playful, likes music and playing with toys and is closest to his nanny and roommate, which just happens to be a little girl about 2 years old..... Just like Sonja!!!!!

We have mixed feelings about going because Sonja will be staying at home. I'm sure she will be just fine as she will be staying with Grandma and Grandpa and will be in excellent hands. We would love to bring her with us but due to her age and having to fly for a long period of time (from L.A. to Guangzhou alone is 15 hours!), we thought it best she stay. I am also concerned with health issues (viruses, bacteria etc), which her immature immune system would have difficulty fighting. We are going to miss her very, very, very much.

I think she will be happy to have a little brother....well....at least at first :) . Sonja loves to go into Max's room. She jumps around and will say "paint Max's room.....myself!" as she turns around in a circle with her arms and hands out at her side (as if she's one of Bob Barkers showgirls displaying a prize item) and then will add "Daddy help me!". We show her his picture and she will say " Awww....baby Max" and kisses it. I think after she realizes he's staying, she may not be as enthused about him, but we will see.

We expect to meet Max and bring him home in mid April. We will be spending our first 5 days in China touring Beijing and visiting the Great Wall, Tiananmen Square and other sights before we FINALLY get to hold our Max man in Gansu Province. We are so very excited and just can't wait! After that, we then travel to Guangzhou, Guangdong province which is in the southern most part of China before coming home.

We invite you to join us and hope you enjoy our journey to our son, and Sonja's little brother, Max.